The Birthday Audit

Dear Kids,

Birthdays change as you get older.

When you’re young, they’re pure upside.

Cake. Presents. Party. Actually, you can keep that up as long as you want.

But somewhere along the way, birthdays do have a tendency to start feeling less like celebrations and more like annual performance reviews.

Another year older, but what did you accomplish?

Are you where you thought you’d be?

Shouldn’t you have figured out more by now?

You still think next year is your “best shape ever” year?

It’s amazing how quickly a piece of strawberry cake can turn into an existential crisis.

It’s happened to me.

I’ve taken a day that should have been about how thrilled 14-year-old me would be with how things have turned out and unwittingly watched the audit of everything I haven’t yet accomplished roll by like a stock ticker.

Not super festive.

The truth is, age is a pretty useless scoreboard.

Some years you move forward.

Some years knock you sideways.

But this is our only crack at this “life” thing and I’ve learned it gets a lot more enjoyable when you start focusing on what’s going right vs. what’s going wrong.

So if birthdays ever start feeling heavier than they used to, try not to treat them like deadlines.

You don’t have to prove that the year was “worth it”.

You were here for it and that’s more than enough reason for cake.

Love you more than you’ll ever know,

Dad, 42

P.S.

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