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Written by Sofie's avatar

This is brilliant. I love how you break down the quiet traps hidden in “polite” phrases, we’ve all felt that cornered feeling, but rarely does someone explain it this clearly. Slowing down, asking for clarity, and refusing to step into someone else’s frame… that’s wisdom most of us learn the hard way. Loved this. ❤️

OliveTree's avatar

I was once guilty of saying to my sister "stop getting so defensive" and she responded with "I'm so glad you agree with me that what you are saying is antagonistic." I had no response to that hahah

Eljon de Ocampo's avatar

I’ve come to realize that some of the best advice isn’t the big, life-changing stuff like taking a leap of faith or traveling the world. It’s the small guidance that helps us avoid the traps other people set for us. Great advice, UD!

Energy Alchemist's avatar

Great advice!! I have a hard time slowing down a conversation to say what I really want to say. I’m always in a rush to get away from an uncomfortable conversation. Learning how to slow down and get clear would really help. 🙏

Devayu's avatar

Only dad can advices like this.

Just Danielle's avatar

This - I would say at least 1-2x a week I come across someone doing this.

It's crazy how its never something to sleep on. Always be vigilant.

Madonna's avatar

This is definitely true!

Some people love to twist their words so as to come out genuine, but deep down there's a hidden intention.

Chev's avatar

It’s a trap- read this one before it’s too late!

Jeremy L's avatar

You are right, I found myself nodding along. You could also added “finding yourself randomly laughing out loud” as I did that as well

Liv's avatar

@theunfinisheddad I am so glad I found your substack. Each week you come out with something I look forward to reading!!!!!

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Oh my goodness, the only thing I don't like about this is that I didn't think to write it first!!